The first thing I had to decide was did I really want to get him back.  My friends were there with all sorts of advise on how to get back an ex but I was not sure I wanted that advise from a group of girls who did not have a working relationship among the group of them.   After a lot of thought and soul searching I decided that he was the one I wanted and called him.  I told him what I had been going through and how I had come up with the decision that we were right for each other.